How to Write a Eulogy
Writing a eulogy doesn’t need to be a task left only to great writers and public speakers. The purpose of a eulogy is to give a sincere and heartfelt account of a loved one’s life. Following a few simple guidelines can help anyone create a eulogy.
1. Use your individual voice and personality
A eulogy doesn’t need to be dry, dull, or even sad. While a funeral is usually a somber occasion, a eulogy is the time to honor the life and legacy of the deceased. Try to write in a conversational tone, speaking to those in the room as you would normally. Don’t be afraid to include humor and funny stories when describing your loved one.
2. Include personal stories.
Everyone at the funeral will be gathered to celebrate the life of the deceased. Most people would love to hear a story about your friend or family member when they were young. Fill everyone in on an inside joke or a favorite trip you took together. If you find yourself struggling to think of a good story, try to imagine which anecdote would make your loved one laugh if you brought it up with him or her.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
If you’re having a hard time thinking of things to include in your speech, ask a few other close friends or family members how they would describe your loved one or if they have their own story to share. Take the opportunity to remember good times that you had together.
4. Look to quotes for inspiration
If you’re a religious person, look up some Bible verses and see if any of them speak to you. Read quotes and use one or two that are relevant to your friend or the people who will be in attendance at the funeral service. Did your loved one have a favorite quote? Were they known for a certain phrase or did they often recite a favorite saying? Include that in the eulogy.
5. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or get caught up in making it perfect
A funeral isn’t an easy time. Those who are attending will appreciate your effort and your ability to stand up to speak about the deceased. Sharing personal stories, describing your loved one’s positive characteristics, and paying respects are all more important than crafting the perfect speech. Relax and speak from the heart.
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